Everyone Are Encouraged to Be the Additional Haim Member.

"Any idea when you're interviewing the Haim sisters?" a text pops up. "I was hoping to ask if I can join as their fourth member."

There's just a single issue: The author likewise longs to be the Haims' fourth member. And we're in plentiful company. Multiple famous admirers have openly begged for the position.

It's clear a special quality is happening. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana started their musical journey performing shows at local delicatessens with their family. Today, they are repeated Grammy nominees.

Similar to the best groups, they're a tight-knit trio. Their music videos often feature them striding in sync down the streets of Los Angeles. On stage, they perform with such unfettered happiness you can't help but think, "I want to be part of that, too."

"The numerous instances on tour that audience members told us and said, 'Watching you live, I picked up a drum kit'," remarks Alana, the most junior of the Haim siblings. "That's the biggest honor. It is a prize in itself. We have succeeded if we can motivate young girls to start a band."

"And thus all gets an invitation to be the fourth part of the family."

Award Milestone

The group are connecting from a break, where they're resting up after an major tour in for their latest album, I Quit.

They're presently reeling from the news it's been in the running for best rock album at the Grammys – with Haim the very first all-female band ever in contention for the award.

"I watch the announcements every year, so it sort of feels like The Truman Show when your name is read out," notes Alana. "I needed to phone my sisters to say, 'Did I hear this right or am I imagining things'?"

The weight of the honor resonates with the band.

"We deliberately set out to make a rock album this time, so it's a huge step," continues Alana. "Yet we're just appreciative for the pioneers that paved the way."

Emotional Upheaval and Candor

The project emerged from a period of personal change. All three sisters found themselves single, and the music inhabits that odd transitional period where you're glad to be free, but not quite ready to start anew.

The words track endings and partings. The sisters desire love, but not the specific love they've got. You can hear them working out in the moment who they aspire to be.

"That's a perfect summary, yes," responds Danielle. "I Quit is essentially a personal statement. You have to consciously practice ignoring the outside opinions and saying, 'It doesn't matter to me what people think'."

Refinement of Music

That developed toughness required a fresh approach – more raw and direct than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who co-produced the album, that started with the percussion.

"Percussion is such a specific thing, and I focus so intensely about it," she says.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the title of our memoir," laughs Alana. "I always say, our albums cannot begin until we find the ideal drum sound."

Stories and Collective Camaraderie

The band's openness inspired the album's rollout, where the sisters revealed some of their dating horror stories.

A former partner ended things with Este over a medical consideration. Alana told a story of travelling to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a friendly slap at midnight.

"Experiencing these heartbreaks, you just feel like there's only darkness," says Alana. "So to be able to share those stories and hear others tell you wilder stories, it's therapeutic."

A Secure Future

You can clearly sense a change in the band. Today, Haim are more certain of their place in the rock pantheon.

They're major draws, with hit albums and an global fan base.

Yet the band will forever be their top focus.

"Me and my siblings have been making music since I was four," shares Alana. "There is nothing else that we were supposed to do. And I'm really thankful we've made it and we're still making music."